Going through a breakup what should I do?

My girlfriend of 13 years decided to breakup with me because someone at her job that she likes is interested in her too. We have had some problems but I didn't think she would do this. We have a house together, and dog. She says this is just a separation, she just wants to date for awhile, but it doesn't feel like that to me. She's moving out today for I don't know how long, but says she isn't abandoning me. What should I do? Wait?Going through a breakup what should I do?
Don't be a doormat man. You need to cry and cry and then say good riddens... If she comes back and you are still free or not in a relationship, then you can decide what you want... But right now, she is giving you your freedom - take it and welcome it with open arms... I know you don't want to be alone - we humans like ';love'; alot and rightly so - but if she doesn't have the love to give you, then you don't want her anyway - you deserve someone who truly loves you!Going through a breakup what should I do?
Hey man thats bad news





Dude get a home equity loan, get the house in selling shape sell it and pay off all debts and move on. Shes lost feelings for you and just feel relieved that youre not married.





I have all that and two kids and my wife has no respect for me so thats what im doing..
sell the house drop the dog off at her job, in her lap.....





go home pack up and leave. start over. leave her stuff behind she is a big girl she can get it herself.





move on because she expects you to be there after her fling is over with.





i am sure you are not dirt.....time to move on....
Contrary to another poster on this questions opinion, it is not always the mans fault.





It sounds to me like your relationship is over, honey. What's happening is that she doesn't want to let go of the security of her relationship with you (hence, saying you're not breaking up; that she's just testing the waters etc) so she can go out and explore other things. That way, if she doesn't find anything better, she feels she can always come crawling back.





The fact that she's moving out shows that she's serious about moving on. That's a big step! And any time a relationship goes from monogomous to non-monogomous, this is a sure sign of a lack of commitment.





Make sure she takes all her stuff with her, leaving absolutely no room for debate about whose stuff is what. If your finances are intermingled, seperate them quickly. I suggest you tell her that you can't deal with her 'exploring' other territories. That you deserve and demand a monogomous, committed relationship. If she loves you, she should be focusing her efforts on fixing what went wrong in your relationship, not exploring new ones!





Tell her this....break it off....(even though technically she already has), spend a lot of time with your freinds, keep the dog (a woman with those kinds of issues shouldn't have that responsibility!) and wait for Ms. Right. She's out there! Don't lose hope!
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If you wait for her you are an big IDIOT. She tells you she wants to separate to go date for a while... and you would consider waiting for her???? are you stupid. What you do is move the hell on. You don't wait for that ******. She wants to find someone else, you go find someone else too. You seem so weak to me to be asking that question. It's like you're giving her permission to go out with the guy.. and if it doesn't work out... you'll be write there waiting for her like a ******* fool. MOVE ON.
First of all, I can't help but wonder why she was still just a girlfriend after 13 years; didn't you not want to marry her ?


Could this make her think that you really didn't want to marry her, and therefore, she needed to move on. And what does she think she is doing, if she doesn't consider it abandonment ?





For now, do nothing. You're devastated and hurting. Give yourself a chance to catch your breath and do some healing. In the meantime, it also gives her a chance to figure out who and what she really wants too.
DON'T WAIT FOR HER... IT SEEMS LIKE SHE'S PLANNING ON KEEP U ON THE SIDE IN CASE IT DOESN'T WORK OUT FOR HER. FORGET HER. SHE'S NOT WORTH WAITING FOR IF SHE'S GOING TO DO THIS. IF SHE REALLY WAS WORTH WAITING FOR, SHE WOULDN'T BE ASKING FOR A ';SEPARATION';. IF SHE'S GONNA GO SEE OTHER PEOPLE, WHY CAN'T YOU??!!
Look, don't wait around for her, move on. I know it's hard, but why would you wait around. She is not appreciating the 13 years together. Remember *Never leave the one you love for the one you like, because the one you like will leave you for the one they love*. The guy she likes might do the same thing to her. What goes around, comes around. Just sell the house, divide what's left and decide on who gets the dog. If you allow her to come and go as she wants; she will play you like a fool. Well good luck, take care.
well mistake #1, buying a house with someone that you are not married too. Do not make it again.





If she comes back why would you want her? Talk to a lawyer about what you can do in your state to get the house and move on,wiser and eventually happier. All women are not like her, but take your time before you move onto the next one,
don't wait. she wants to play the field, and, if she doesn't like it, she wants to be able to come back to you. would you want her back after not knowing who and what she has been experimenting with? would you ever be able to trust her again? and what if she decides that she does like it out there, what will you be waiting for then? get a lawyer for the house and custody of the dog...and start moving on with your life. she is looking at you only as a safety net...just in case.
OUCH MAN


I dunno, will you be able to sit around and wait while your gf prances around town dating other people??? What brought about these feelings in her? I think you should tell her how you feel. I mean, you can't just walk out of someone's life to see if you're missing out on something and expect them to be sitting there waiting for you like nothing happened! That's pretty f'ing selfish.


Talk to her about why she feels she needs this time apart.


You guys need to get to the bottom of this.
if you love her give her ,her space and she what happens maybe you 2 need a lil break..
Im so sorry to hear about your girlfriend. In my opion she is trying to leave the door open with you so when she realizes that the grass is NOT greener on the other side she would still have you to come back to.


Take it from me, it's better to cut the ties, ssell the house give her the dog and move on wit your life. There is someone out there waiting for someone like you. You deserve better then what she is doing to you.


Be grateful you weren't married, and had children together, a dog is hard enough!


Hang in there and take up a hobby make yourself busy and unavailable to her. She will soon see what she gave up and I promise will come back to a better you.


When she does, it won't be her decision if she wants you, it will be yours if you still want her.


In the mean time keep your head up, have a beer and call it a day!
Do not wait. However, don't jump into anything either. Allow yourself time to heal and mourn the end of this relationship. If you jump into anything too soon you will bring all the bad stuff from this relationship in. She sounds like she wants to explore, but still have you to fall back on if she needs to. Do not be that person. If she comes back and you can fit it into your life, then that is one thing, only if it is what you want. However, do not make changes just to accomodate her once she has chosen to leave. If she is free to date others, so are you. Do not let her think you are just there waiting for her, she may just use that against you some day.
What did you do to her? Abuse her? Verbally abuse her? Physically abuse her?





Sorry, but the truth is, it's ALWAYS THE MAN'S FAULT. Women don't just get up and leave like that, obviously you did something to her.
get an attorney for the legal matters. get a counselor for the emotional ones -you need to go thru the 5 stages of grief before you will be able to heal from the loss of the relationship. think with your rational brain during this period and use the legal counsel to ensure this.