How can you restart your life after you breakup with someone you spended the last 4 1/2 years of your life?

It's been 4 months since we broke up, we didn't end up fighting, we still talk at least once every 2 weeks, I麓m trying to move away to another city to try to start over my life. Through this time we had very special and happy moments but also hard and deep moments, I know we still both love each other, but for several reasons we can麓t be together at all no more, there麓s no turning back but it麓s so hard to forget and just let it go all. Hope you can help me out and please don’t ask reasons why we can麓t be together, that’s just the way it has to be.How can you restart your life after you breakup with someone you spended the last 4 1/2 years of your life?
This situation really sucks. But you have to let go. I know it's hard. If it takes moving away then do it. It's good that it wasen't a nasty breakup. That always makes things worse. Don't try and move on with someone else just yet, because you will hurt that person, cause your feelings won't be with them. If you two are truly meant to be together then I guess everything will work it'sself out. You don't have to forget and let go all at once. Do it gradually and soon enough she will be just another memory in your life.How can you restart your life after you breakup with someone you spended the last 4 1/2 years of your life?
Take time to let yourself heal from the breakup.Then when you fell like your ready to stsrt dating again, go to it.


Make SURE SHE'S OUT OF YOUR SYSTEM FIRST!
it’s a peanuts breakup just 4.5 yrs. Imagine couple breakup after 45 yrs of Marriage.
I was in a very similar situation. Almost 5 years together with my ex. We went away to college together, lived together, and then came home and fell apart. That following year was the hardest to get through. I realized that my life was OUR life and it was gone. I was lost. We tried to stay friends for a while and then the new GF came along. Unfortunately he lived close by and I had to pass his house everyday goin to work. So, I cant argue with you for wanting to move away, I did too, but no matter where you go the feelings will follow. Only TIME is going to give you the distance you need to let it go. Don’t move unless there is another motivation in your life to do so (job opportunity, family, etc.). You may regret alienating yourself from family and friends where you live now. Just give yourself time. Starting your life over can be done in other ways. You can try making new friends, catch up with old ones, get interested in a new hobby or sport, travel, relax, and just get YOUR life back. Do what makes you happy and keep yourself busy! Don’t try dating too soon. A lot of people kept trying to push me into this but it never works. You will know when the time is right. I promise it does get better. I am living proof! Its just going to take time. :) Hope this helps.
Being together for so long, it definite that you will feel uneasy about it. However there is not a easy way to restart your life as it had been a 'habit' to be with him/her. To change to 'habit' is not an easy task as you may know, so how can you adjust to live without him/her in a moment.





1. Only time can diminish this feeling. I too, have this kind of experience. It takes me 2 years to not to think about him/her and restart and now him/her face is getting faded from my memories.





2. Indulge in your works.





3. Find another partner, as you may place more attention to this new ones than the past ones.





The feeling is harsh especially on special occasion and also on the places, events, songs and etc that you two had enjoy before.





All the best to you. I believe you can overcome it.