How do you breakup with someone you love...?

After 4.5 years of dating and having more downs than ups... how do you tell them enough is enough and not back track on your words?? My health is deteriorating every time we fight which isn't as often as it use to be... but still, when its ugly, ITS REALLY Ugly... and I'm one of those people who don't have a handful of friends that I can cry to... I'm so lost... what should I do... ThanksHow do you breakup with someone you love...?
Just do it..don't play around with words just be straight and stick to your decision. ';Look I love you and I always will but I'm just not in love with you anymore and I'm tired of fighting all the time. I just think it's time for us both to move on and find someone that we can get along with all the time not just some of the time';. Just be straight with him. Most likely it will be another 'down' but hopefully it'll be down and out and that'll be the last time you have to fight with him. You both deserve someone you don't fight with all the time. Don't get me wrong I think a healthy relationship is one where you have occasional fights but not horrible rattling the windows because you're screaming and throwing things fights. But there comes a time if you fight all the time that enough is enough. I was in a realtionship like that once we were together for a little less than a year and the breakupi was really mutual because we were both tired of being angry and in bad moods all the time. So you need to figure out if this is truely what you want. If it is then just be straight but stick with your decision and end it totally not just 'take a break' or 'we can still be friends'. Maybe one day you can be friends but for now end the conversations and stay apart for a good while to give you both time to heal. Ending a realtionship is never easy but it's the right thing most of the time. Good luck.How do you breakup with someone you love...?
simple. you say what you have to say.





if what you say has to be **** you youre a horrible person that starts fights and is a prick. say it





be mean. its the only way to get ahead





if he gets bitchy, leave and dont come back
it dosnt even sound like love anymore. ive seen many friends go through this and the truth was they were so accustomed to the other person that they couldnt let go because that was all they knew, but once they stoped and asked themselves ';what good has come out of this relationship?'; and ';how much better of a person have i become?';, they realize that its not all that great. you said it yourself more downs than ups that should tell you enough. i know it can be very hard to let go of what makes you feel comfortable and in a sense ';safe'; but if you find yourself unhappy most of the time than its very important that you think of your future and well being FIRST! a relationship can be many things and can get ugly but when it happens alot then you need to find your way out. believe me the hardest part is letting go, after you can do that and NOT look back you will realize that there is more out there than you thought. im not saying look for someone else immediately, just focus on yourself for a while make new friends and just move forward!!!! tell that person you really believe that its in the best interest for the both of you to end things. even if they beg and swear it will get better dont give in and stay strong. you both should take time away from each other and see where life leads you. if it leads you to eachother again then it was meant to be! but try to find things your interested in and focus your time on that. no matter what STAY BUSY AND STAY STRONG!!!! GOOD LUCK!