Being By Yourself Or Being With Someone, Recent Breakup?

Man do I feel miserable, a 5 year relationship just gone to craps and it's only been a month now. We both called it off and have given up, and now I just don't know how to start over. I still love her, but she stopped loving me and I said I would rather be by myself than to be with someone just for company.





How long will it take to get over your first relationship? Does the first relationship hurt the most and how long should I wait to move on and try to mingle with someone else?Being By Yourself Or Being With Someone, Recent Breakup?
Some people say it takes 6 months to get over someone from a long term relationship. I think it takes longer than that but it depends on your style and how much you hold onto things. Other people say that it takes half the length of the relationship to actually be fully over someone. Since you don't have intense anger to fuel you moving on I'm guessing it will take a bit longer.


It's definitely too early for you to be 'starting over' and dating. A lot of people try to lose themselves in another person by jumping into a rebound relationship but that often doesn't allow any personal growth and you end up taking the issues of the first relationship into the next one. You should take this time to work on yourself and improve the areas of your life that you may have been ignoring because of your relationship. Make yourself better so that when the next right person comes along you'll be even more of a catch. Strengthen your friendships and use your freedom to follow some of your interests/dreams that have gone on the back burner. Being single is not a curse, you just have to remember how to do it and to make the best of it.Being By Yourself Or Being With Someone, Recent Breakup?
The first doesn't always hurt the worst, a relationship you have in the future can mean more to you. I think the timing is different for everyone. Sometimes mingling with someone else before you are over your ex could lead that person on. You'll know when you are ready to date again. Relationships are hard and so is getting over them. I think cutting all ties is the easiest way to get over someone. It does get lonely but you're on the right track!
My first one really burned. I went out and almost straight away got a rebound (by straight away i mean a few months). I was hurt for so long that i held on to my rebound. It felt comfortable to have someone around. I loved him but I wasnt crazy about him. We have just broken up after 3 years. it doesnt hurt like the first one, and we were only together for 1.5 years. It hurts still, but i can cope a lot better. If my experience says anything, it will take you a very long time to get over the breakup. I suggest that you stay away from other girls for the time being. If your ex sleeps around you can hold your head high knowing she looks like a tart. But its up to you to do what you need to and what suits you!! Good luck, and know you will be a stronger person. And one day when you do meet a special lady, you will look back and thank god you didnt stay with your ex.
i still getting over my marrage break up , 15 yrs ,, but i reeally have had some fun trying


plenty g/f since , but it not the same ,


cheer up , go get some action , we all want action ,


be happy and have fun :D
lol your depressed while she is out f-ing some other guy
Sorry to hear it bud. I ended my first major one in November, 2 and a half years. It was full of hardship and it really taught me a lot about devotion and about myself as a human being. Simply put, I could not erase that relationship or its effect on me even if I wanted to.





Best bet, set your sights on personal achievement and spend time with good friends for now. When you feel ready, go out to the bars or any other local hangout where you can engage in an activity with the local females. You will move on, it will take time and it will hurt for a while. Don't avoid the feelings of loss, its natural and part of healing. Try not to Facebook search her, and remove items that remind you of her from the general circulation of your life. I don't mean throw it all out, just pack it away unless you really need the objects in question.