How do I breakup with someone I love?

I fell in love a girl in my mid 20s. We have been together for two years.She is my first longterm relationship. I am now looking to settle down, get a house, and have children. She tells me she is not ready for that and may never be ready. I love her but now I am questioning our relationship. I very much want a family and I feel like I am getting older and if I stay with her and she never wants a family I will end up alone. I'd like to think if I stay with her she would eventually want a family but I really don't know that. I'm afraid if I leave her I will never find another love and ultimately be alone. I am now becoming homophobic of my own relationship. I think about finding a caring man who also wants to settle down and have a family. But I don't even know if I can love a man. Should I breakup with my girlfriend because we aren't sharing the same future dream or should I stay and hope one day she will want a house and kids? Is it silly to breakup over the future?How do I breakup with someone I love?
i suggest that you refrain from breaking this girl's heart until you figure out what you want out of life!





from your question, it sounds like you do not have a clue what you want. first you need to figure out if you are into guys or women! and you are also only in your 20's! what's the rush here! you still have your whole life ahead of you to settle down. if you were in your 30's or 40's, asking about settling down, i'd understand, but in your 20's you should just be out working, meeting people and having fun.How do I breakup with someone I love?
i think you know the right answer for you becasue you have weighed both the facts and your feelings it's very difficult breaking up with someone you love find the strength to move on it's not going to be easy but why stay and waste your time im sorry be open to your options don't neccesarily have to be with a man..
you said it yourself you love her...give it some time.
Get a grip man, are you sure you are a dude, all insults aside u have a major self esteem issue, and after reading your question you are not ready to settle down. Cause your decisions are very emotions and not based on reality. You need to get some help..... I promise you if you get married now you will regret it.
Dude tell her how you feel .. and If you are not on the same page you need to tel her that ... I think she will come around..... Most girls really do want what you want you sound like a dream... Dont give up
No, it's not silly at all. You have more luck in finding someone else with your future goals and needs. I say breakup.
Tell her that you love her and shes important to you but that you are looking for different things.If she doesnt want those things with you then you need to break up.She may change her mind to keep you she may not.Either way it sounds like you wont be happy in this relationship unless you get to starta family.There is nothing wrong with breaking up when you both want something different from the relationship
Are you a lesbian? or Bi? Because it seems to me the problem is not your girlfriend but the fact that you are unsure of your own sexuality. You first need to think about yourself and what you want out of another person. Do you want a man or a woman is what it boils down to. I don't think that you want kids at all and i'm thinking you are saying to your girlfriend you want a family because you don't know if you want to even be with her. Stay with her if you love her and if she loves you. But don't break up with someone if you're unsure with yourself. Besides kids and all of that can come later. You're only in your twenties.
You need a shrink . Your more messed up than the girl in the previuos question .
Breaking up is the hardest thing to do. If she isn't ready NOW there may be a chance she will change her mind. Talk it over with her and tell her your feelings. You guys are still a bit young. But if you feel the need to leave her just to start a life and family, tell her and explain. Just give it time though, it is silly to leave someone over the future that we cannot tell what is gonna happen.
If you love your girlfriend then why are you going to break up with her????


A very big question.





So does she also love you? If she doesn't love you then of course there is no point of waiting for her to be ready to have a family and finally settle down. If you break up with her then she would be probably happy about that because you set her free.





BUT, if you do love her and she is the one that you want to be your wife then you should wait for her.
...why don't you sit her down (under the right circumstances) and tell her exactly what you've just asked here... communication is the ';key'; to understanding...
Just say what you feel and leave. Why let someone hold you back?