If you love someone, and you know the relationship is not right.. how do you think is the best method to get over the hurt of losing someone you still love. I was with this person for 2 years.How to survive a breakup when you are still in love with that person?
I went through a similar situation and let me tell you it is not easy. For me it was finding other interests, distancing myself from that person and time that helped me heal. I still love him but it doesnt hurt anymore. We are stronger than we think!How to survive a breakup when you are still in love with that person?
YOU ARE IN HELL...but there is a way out. time heals all wounds. cliche i know, but true. get out and date. rebounding isn't perfect, but it will bandaid the situation til you fully recover. also, no matter what. DON'T CALL, E-MAIL, TEXT, IM, %26amp; DEFINATELY DO NOT VISIT THEM!!! %26amp; cry over good music
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I don't know and I'm faced with something just like that right now as as matter of fact. It might sound mean or selfish but try to think about yourself, if this change, if leaving this person is the best thing for you to do, you can't hold yourself back. You'll only end up resenting that person later, and the longer you're with him/her the more it'll hurt when it has to be over, the sooner you end a doomed relationship the better the chances of staying close to that person.
You know...I hate to sugar coat things. It's going to be an emotional battle. It won't be easy but we have in us a strength that we doubt so many times. You will definitely turn a new page but time will have to heal you.
I can't help but think of the movie ';Under The Tuscan Sun';. There's a scene were Frances says, ';Do you know the most surprising thing about divorce? It doesn't actually kill you. Like a bullet to the heart or a head-on car wreck. It should. When someone you've promised to cherish till death do you part says ';I never loved you,'; it should kill you instantly. You shouldn't have to wake up day after day after that, trying to understand how in the world you didn't know.';
The quote may not describe your exact situation but she illustrates that pain so vividly in her words. You are not alone in your heartbreak. We have all lost people we have loved but somehow manage to survive.
You have to tell yourself that they just have lost that loving feeling for you. You have to tell yourself that it is not your fault. You have to spend more time with friends and doing other activities that you like to do more often and fill your time with things that are productive to get your mind on something other than the breakup. Do not sit around and blame yourself. Use this time to work on yourself.
It is one of the most difficult things emotionally for anyone. In the song ';Every Rose Has It's Thorn'; there is a line ';Like a knife that cuts you, the wound heals. But the scar, that scar remains'; Pretty accurate assessment. There is no quick-fix. I'm really sorry you're going through this
You've got it half right. If you love someone, it doesn't ever go away. You learn to live without that type, or style of love. There are many types, infinite to be exact. Take the best parts with you, allow the past to settle, drink plenty of water, and chalk it up to experience.
Time is really the best medicine. The key is to not fall into the traps like alcohol and rebounding. Treat yourself, be kind to yourself, and talk about it with your loved ones. When you're ready to jump back into the dating pool, don't settle!! Good luck.
Try to get away from him and divert your mind to something else
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