What is love? Is being ';in'; love the same as loving someone?

I recently broke up with my bf of 2 years. He was a great listner, supportive of me emotional/physical, he wasn't tempermental at all, great when it came to intimate moments, he smelled good, was cute (needed some fixing though), was everything every girl would want in man. I felt like a princess....There was one major problem! I was not ';IN'; love with him. I was attracted to him though...BUT...I never felt the rush, the butterflies, the nervousness....Nothing. At first, I didn't like him at all and I slowly started to like him more and more, but rarely felt ';IN'; love feelings I have felt in the past and that bothered me so much that it ultimately lead to fights and our breakup....Can someone please tell me what love really is? How important is the explosive chemistry? What constitutes a great relationship? Why I feel so confused....What is love? Is being ';in'; love the same as loving someone?
well love is really an illusion, love is a conditional %26amp; controlling, selfish emotion.


if you really love someone, you need to give them total freedom, to do as they please, because you want her/him to be happy, even if it is at your expense, even if it means she/he has an affair. you should be happy for that person because you love that person. and your concern is her/his happiness.


the problem is that your ego gets in the way and your feelings get hurt.


when thing do not go your way. but is that loveWhat is love? Is being ';in'; love the same as loving someone?
Loving someone is that you want all the good thing to happen to them, you care for them; speak well of them; you smile at them.





If you are in love with someone you are very much into each other. You want to be with them and you are very interested in each others life and you are very happy. You can not see others need too much but only to each other.
I use one definition of love. True love, real love, is not based on a feeling, but a choice to act lovingly everyday whether you feel like it or not, that is true unconditional love. What does the ACT of loving someone entail where here is my 1 definition of love, or the act of love...(BTW it is a verb, an action word, not an adjective or describing word)...





Love is Pateint


Love is Kind


Love DOES NOT envy


Love DOES NOT Boast


Love IS NOT proud


Love IS NOT rude


Love IS NOT SELF SEEKING ( you broke up with him because of you and a feeling you wanted but didn't have)


Love IS NOT easily angered


Love keep no record of being wronged (LOVE FORGIVES)


Love rejoices in truth


Love ALWAYS protects


Love ALWAYS Trusts


Love ALWAYS hopes


Love ALWAYS pereveres (stick around even when things aren't going a certain way)





When you do the above you are loving someone. Loving people, for who they are unconditionally, is way better than chemistry, (which is simply hormones telling your brain to feel a certain way) versus consciencously CHOOSING to act lovingly towards someone.





Explosive chemistry NEVER LASTS!!! So why base a relationship that should be forever on something you know will not last???





You are confused because you gave up a good thing, for a selfish reason. Its like choosing someone based on looks, getting married and they have a horribly disfiguring accident...Do you divorce them because they are not handsome anymore??? Esentially that is what you did, YOU never felt a gush of hormones, so instead of looking at what type of person he was, you only saw what he wasn't and split!





Learn to love unconditionally.
If you ask me being in love and loving someone is two different things. But its good that you noticed you were not in love with him because its an important part in making your relationship work. I dont believe being love allows the other person so much space and room for him/her to cheat thats not right you can do that being single. me personally im not going to allow a person who say they arevin love with me to say it alright to cheat and do whateveryou want that as person with low self esteem .but iguess you cant have it both ways so you did the right thing if you were not in love with him, your not selfish you allowed him to go find love else where so yo would not be wasting his time good for you.