How to breakup with someone you love ?

We were engaged , both divorced. But after going out with him for some time. I am almost sure that our marriage will suck. We are different in every aspect and he is so relaxed and irresponsible.





My problem is that I got so attached to him , but I know deep down that my marriage will make me lose a lot and I don't want to bring a daddy to my daughter (4yrs) that will set a bad role model to her.





he has been trating me so well but my GUT feeling tells me the right thing is break up . We are both in love , and I firmly believe love is a fragile commodity and that love is a decision. Love a lone can't make this marriage wrong.





Having explained my case could you please advice how to have the strength to break up with this man I love and whom I am so much attached to.How to breakup with someone you love ?
If you truly want to break it off with him then you need to gather enough courage and by you asking this question it tells me that you have not gather enough at this time. You have to get it through your head that he isn't the one to fulfill your life and you daughter's need. If what you feel about him is true then it shouldn't be hard at all. But you need to do it in a sensible manner like such. Plan a night out or what ever you perfer.





Before you do this take a time out with yourself and think about the reason you breaking up with him. Which I know you already stated earlier. It seems that you may be upset with him and you should try to give him a second chance and talk this out with him. Explain to him your faults in him and see his reaction and actions. If he takes no actin and fails to attempt to try for the better than you have your answer that it is time for him to go out the door.





Next you have to think about how you want the conversation to go. Since you two have been together for a while you might want to consider that the conversation may last longer than you may expect and the reason is because of the length of time you two have been together. Since it is rather long than you can expect a lot of explaining to do.





Make sure that you come up with your answer quick because the sooner the better. Make sure than while breaking up with him you point out the fundamental reasons and not the things that he does to get you upset. Because that wouldn't help your case at any extend. Think it through and take your time.How to breakup with someone you love ?
Maybe u r overdoing things


your concern for your daughter may be prompting u to overdo it


and inflict pain and loneliness on yourself


u r getting a second chance for love and romance


do u want to just throw it away


does the loss justify the 'role model' that your daughter needs


and maybe he will change, with added responsibilities


However, u r the best judge, and u have to face the consequences
you should try to talk to him on how you feel or ask friends or family for advice. IF you are really strong inside i suggest you tell him i don't want to be with you anymore








sorry i don't no a lot i have never been in a relationship im only 14
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Ok now don't be selfish..... Do u want to be with a man who to me sounds like an ***. Or a proper life, with responsible ppl in ur blessed daughters life? Personally I would do the right thing and think about my daughter ( If I had one) before myself.
Bringing children into the mix is definitely a big step. He needs to prove himself a lot more. But if you plan on ending it, try hurting him. Cheating?
tell him its over
I understand your logic, but did you ever think about talkin to him? Seriously, if you love him as much as you claim, how can you be so quick to just end a relationship with someone you were engaged to? Even if marriage may suck,. it just might not be the route for you two at the moment. I also don't see how you can just assume his influence would ruin your daughter; that's a bit much to say right there, but maybe that's just how you feel.





I hope you actually give the guy a chance. By the way, did you ever think maybe you're the problem? You were divorced before, so there was issue there with the previous guy. You can't just always look at the guy and say he's the problem. It could be you.
If u both love each other, then you both should be willing to make sacrifices to improve your relationship. You don't really know how your marriage will end up, who knows, maybe he will change when he realises he has a family now. I don't think i know any dad who isn't over relaxed and irresponsible (if anything, relaxed is a good thing, you don't want a psycho husband believe me).





Tell him that if he really wants to be part of you and your daughter's family, he will need to change his ways. You could try councelling, or whatever you could think of.





The number one thing that brings together a family is love, and if you've found it, don't let it go just because u don't want the effort to fix it.





My advice is you should both stay together for about a year (but still engaged, not married) in a married couple environment, like you should both live togther and treat each other as a family, or even go on vacation together. Still give him a chance, before marrying him and before breaking up with him.